Change for the good!

A day that won't repeat itself in the near future. I took a leave from school today to go the camp set up by the government for my learning license. We stood there from 9.30 to 1.45 straight for about four hours to get the work done. And then after coming back home I went to play cricket because however bad my legs
hurt cricket is love and there are days when I have no one to play with. So coming back to the point of writing this post was while I was going through my Instagram feed I found a page Quotes World which posts well know quotes from all around the world. So one of the quotes was "A year changes you a lot." And that's the last post I read today because this quote actually made sense. Not that the others didn't but this one left a major impact on me. Last year if we consider my eleventh standard then yes it has changed me a lot. And how.. Well read on. Frankly speaking I don't even know how did I finish a year so boring! I mean literally there is not one good moment to look back to. I have enjoyed far more in the one month of twelfth standard than the whole of eleventh. But then maybe this was the reason I changed. I look back to the chats with the person who is so important to me now and all we talked in eleventh was for exchange of notes. Just that. And I am a person who doesn't make friends with a lot of people. I mean I do but a very few of them really matter to me. And when in eleventh with probably no friend at all in the class I realized the smaller that list is the better. Because caring about more and more people is only going to bring disappointments in your life. Eleventh also taught me an emotion called patience. Because during the initial months of the commerce field I chose I would understand nothing taught in class and it all seemed so useless. The same things that are so fun now. That I often used to doubt my selection of stream. But that's when I told myself to be patient. And then with the flow of time things got smooth and now I am so in love with commerce specially Business Studies that I won't trade it for the world. My temperament also changed a lot. I was way too short tempered before. If you really know me you'll know what I am talking about and how much I have changed. Like even petty things would get me fired up AF. But now even in the most heated arguments I have learned to keep a cool head. With the exception of some people. Because out of all the things in this world, words are something you can't take back. So choose them wisely even when you are angry. And the last thing that the last year taught me was to choose your friends wisely. Though however I am yet not so good but believe me I am much better. Because when you have no one to share all your happiness and sorrows you feel kinda lonely but trust me it's much better than sharing those with the wrong people. At this moment if at all anyone really matters to me like their opinion is the first thing I seek whenever in dilemma, their text is the one that lights up my entire mood, their face is the first thing I want to see in the morning and they are the one whom I want to talk to right before I sleep. So a person like this, only and only one. And I hope this doesn't change because we both enjoy unshared attention for each other, by each other. The person's a she definitely. But I wont reveal who. I have other friends too but they don't matter this much to me. But then again if I spend a day without talking to her obviously my mood isn't the best but not that bad too as I have some other idiots who keep me distracted in their own weird way. So to sum it up eleventh was a learning experience and twelfth is showtime! That's all.

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Somethings Are Best Unsaid

2nd June 2017

Friday

Ahh.. Today was a long day and I am in no mood to write this one at least but then the feelings will get bottled up and I am in no mood to face another outburst. So somethings are best unsaid. That's true. But can you really deal with something that constantly keeps eating you on the inside. I mean the more happier I pretend to be the more depressed I am on the inside. Is it a crime to care for someone? To get attached to someone? And moreover is it okay to really want someone in your life and what if you are unknowingly making them uncomfortable with your mere presence? How does that make you feel about yourself? Guilty? Well that's what I felt. Like seriously, I was feeling guilty about getting attached to someone. You know I have this thing. I feel that until I say something out loud it won't be true but today I bottled up the courage to state that it  hurts when you give your 100% in a friendship and don't even receive 20% in return. I could smile all day and put of a happy face and say that it doesn't matter but at the end of the day it does matter. and it does hurt. But then what are you going to do? Continue and make someone uncomfortable or back out completely? I was having the same dilemma and wanted to speak to someone about it. I called my bae but she wasn't there. I called my brother and he wasn't there. For once I felt that sometimes you gotta face the terrible things happening in your life yourself. But then I remembered an old friend to whom I haven't spoken for 2 straight years. But that was my last resort. I called her and it felt like just yesterday that I last talked to her. She didn't change even a bit. She heard me with all the patience in the world and provided me with some solutions so that I don't get trapped in a depressed web of feelings. Then my bae called me and her response was totally different. She wanted me to fight it with anger this time. She felt I was done being sweet but all that was because she can't see me like this. Broken. But at the end of the day I need to sort up things myself. Do I feel bad? Definitely. Do I feel good that I shared it with the person? Yes. Do I feel I jeopardized our friendship? I don't know. But now I am going to keep myself under check and not get attached to anyone. I need t shut that door if I want to live a peaceful life. Another piece of advice from my side, even if you get attached to someone a lot, don't show. They might not always like it. 

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Read : It's Good

Lately, I felt kinda detached to the habit of reading that I possess. But then I went over to Amazon and ordered for myself a couple of good books to read and got on track again. Reading helps you a lot. You can start reading at any point of age but make sure that once you start it don't give up on it quickly. It may take some time to get used to it and I know reading a 350 page novel is not everyone's cup of tea but here are a few tips to start reading as a productive habit. Try to break the book into parts and then read it. But before that you gotta start with picking up a book. Now there are tons of great books out there so which one do you read? Its easy. Just sort out your likes. It maybe the type of movies you like. For instance, I like romantic comedies so the same interest prevails when I read books. So it could be the type of movies you like to watch or the type of person you are also matters a lot when you decide which type of book to read. Illustratively, if you are an introvert then the books about crime and mystery may intrigue you. Or if you are an extrovert then books about romance and travel are the ones you may find your interest brewing into. So once you have picked a book of your choice, then you need to break it up. Now some people may suggest that you don't need to read the acknowledgement and the preface but I am totally against that type of notion. Reading about the writer may help you better understand the story because every other writer has his own way of writing and a particular point of view that is distinguishable. So, for a first timer reading 2-3 chapters in a day won't be a bad start.  And then when you make up speed you might read half a book in a day. Now reading is a very productive activity. When you read, you imagine the scenes taking place in your mind. You create the personality of the characters in your mind and mostly relate with one character more than the other. When you finish a book you are left with so much of the good stuff. You imagine how things would have been if a certain incident didn't take place in the story. You try to think with different point of views. The character which leaves the deepest impact on you while reading mingles with who you are. You extract subconsciously the traits of the personality of your favorite character and embody it in your life. Reading changes you as a person. It makes you better. You try thinking everything intellectually. It improves your vocabulary and if you read aloud (which is recommended) it improves your reading and speaking skills. Reading aloud with emotions and contrasting tones will help you to be a better speaker in life. At the end, reading leaves you with so much to wander about and makes you a better person than you were before you picked the book. So Read On! 

5 of the best couples in the history of TV

1. Castle and Beckett (Caskett)

The reason why I love Castle and Beckett from the infamous ABC Crime - Romance - Drama Castle is because they are nothing like each other. One is a best selling author and the other is a NYPD hotshot detective. They never made sense on paper but who cares? They were magical together. The chemistry they shared is something I haven't seen ever before. They were too good to be true. And thus they rank first in my list.

2. Chandler and Monica (Mondler)

Chandler and Monica from the Bright Kauffman and Crane produced F.R.I.E.N.D.S the famous sit-com caught my attention since the beginning. They are very cute and with Chandler's sarcasm and Monica's cooking skills they are going to go a long way. They started going out in the fifth season and were the first ones to get married of course after Ross's failed marriages. Well they were easy going and fun to watch.

3. Ross and Rachel (Rosschel)

Ross and Rachel are another couple from the Bright Kauffman and Crane produced F.R.I.E.N.D.S and they were a pretty great couple too. They went on and off again and again but that's whats unique about them. Even after breaking up so many time they would always find a way back to each other. Yes "We were on a break" and "I got off the plane" were some of the best moments of the show they were really good together.

4. Harvey and Donna (Darvey)

Harvey and Donna from the renowned USA produced Suits were a great couple. Though they aren't an official couple yet they share a great bond which is beyond the chemistry and relationships from the other couples on this list. They were absolutely perfect and a classy couple. We all hope that the cupid strikes for them soon. And admit it we all wondered what was the ritual with the can opener.

5. Nathan and Haley (Naley)

 

Nathan and Haley from the celebrated Warner Bros. production One Tree Hill were the reason I chose to write this post in the first place. Though being mismatched they were perfect together. They were really awesome and a dear couple. They set benchmarks for the upcoming shows and proved what it takes t be a perfect couple is just one thing - love.

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Five Point Someone - Chetan Bhagat

Two States - The story of my life was the first book I ever read in my life. It was interesting I have to say. But Five Point Someone was something else. I didn't know why did it grab my attention in that boring library period when CHETAN BHAGAT written in bold grabbed my attention. There were two of them. Five Point Someone and Two States. I gave Two States to Sakshi and kept Five Point Someone for myself. I turned the book and read what it had on behind. It was not that interesting. I had to keep on debating with my friend that 3 Idiots was not completely based on it but had to settle for "Haan thodi-bohot hai." Then I began reading it and surprisingly enough it was better than what was written on the back of it.



Read the next post for the rest. 

Cooking.. and eating of course!

It was just another boring day of the never ending holidays you get once you face X. A relief and much needed break without the homework! But after some initial days of enjoyment you don't really have much to look forward to. And for me I follow a routine everyday. I'd wake up late and before my mind can register its already lunch time and the slow bore afternoon kicks off. Thanks to the new net connection I just think for a second or two and download a flick and watch it till its time that the outdoors are cool enough to road around in the colony. Coming back to dinner and going out again for badminton followed until the great Indian Premier League kept everyone glued to their flats. 

Well nothing is forever and thus this schedule bored me enough to make some changes. Rather than watching silly movies or sleeping today when I woke up I came straight to YouTube to look at some recipes while my stomach made abrupt noises declaring the hunger pang for breakfast. I am not a breakfast kind of person but I am human and I am seldom hungry. Well I've always enjoyed eating but cooking the food you eat is a different kind of joy you get. It always irked me to stand for hours in the kitchen as it was no inborn talent. But then spending some time in the kitchen when mumma would ask to turn off the flame after X whistles or just stirring the pan so as to it does not stick and burn made my dislike for cooking go away. 

Then came the turning point, as in every story has, I started watching then Fox Traveler and now Fox Life. Watching the chefs cooking with utmost joy and curiosity, I started assisting my mom in the cooking. Chopping veggies was something that I didn't acclaim as my cup of tea back then. Because surely it wasn't. And even now I can't complete a dish without getting some cuts. But you know the satisfaction you get after cooking a dish perfectly it awesome. And nothing till date compares to that. 

Now its a everyday routine to try something new because I get bored easily. To get your first cake right , to get your first bread right, your pasta or any curry and rice right really feels good. It was my first bread today and I kinda nailed it. It feels great to cook and eat and also get to listen to compliments for that. Cooking was indeed heredity passed on from mumma and papa both. I think it runs in the family. And on any random Saturday when papa is home and we cook I bet its better than roaming in a mall or at any other place. I love cooking now and it came at a leisurely pace as a surprise.

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© Aditi Tiwari 2016. Dark Blue Anecdotes™ 

 

Source : health-temple.com 

Why didn't you try harder ?

About 8,00,000 people commit suicide worldwide every year, of these 1,35,000 (17%) are residents of India, a nation with 17.5% of world population. Between 1987 to 2007, the suicide rate increased from 7.9 to 10.3 per 1,00,000, with higher suicide rates in southern and eastern states of India.  SAVE™ recorded with the US Government that Suicide is the the 10th major cause of deaths in the US surpassing homicide which ranks 17th. There is something wrong happening in the world or its just human behavior to say "NO, I Quit." to difficulties.

  

The following charts analyze a few aspects of suicides :

Source : http://scroll.in/article/694364/four-charts-show-why-indias-youth-suicide-rate-is-among-the-worlds-highest

As the earlier data states women have a higher suicidal tendency then men. And as per the multi-national sites' data females experience depression,  have suicidal thoughts and attempt suicides twice as much as men do. There is one death by suicide in the world every 40 seconds. Depression is the leading cause of disability worldwide. Suicide is the 3^rd leading cause of death in the world for those aged 15-44 years. 

 In the light of recent events Pratyusha Banerjee and Jia Khan are the two beautiful souls we lost to Suicide. But these are only the known names. What about the unknowns?

All of the above are just some mathematical facts aligned statistically. But what is the real reason as to why people commit suicide. The utter feeling of helplessness and the thought that "I am not liked by anyone" or "no one wants me in this world" has often led to the final solution of suicide. And as to my sixteen years on this planet, suicide is never an impulsive decision. Its the result of long hours of staring at the ceiling thinking nothing or maybe over thinking everything. If you are busy 24*7, thoughts like these would never cross your mind. But if you had had a rough experience with life and you keep on analyzing it again and again. Replaying it like a record in your mind. You just click Repeat again and again. Even till this point its bearable but when you start blaming yourself for every small thing happening around you after that experience the problem starts brewing in the caldron of your depressed state of mind. Learn to let go is something the human brain does not learn in a day. My neighbor came to my house but something about her was not the same. And when I asked her reason it left me rooted at my spot. Her sister-in-law's sister committed suicide on 1st April, 2016. Does that date ring a bell, other than the April fool? The same day Pratyusha Banerjee committed suicide. She was a gynecologist and her husband is an anesthesiologist. They recently inaugurated a hospital together. They have two children. A boy in F.Y.M.B.B.S and a lad who recently finished with his Tenth boards and went to Kota for IIT-JEE preparations. What more can one ask for? In the causes above you see some like poverty, unemployment, bankruptcy, illness and many more. She had none. All she did was to over think about the future of her kids. The elder one wasn't scoring the ace marks and that some how worried her about the upcoming of her hospital. On the doom's day, she wasn't naturally behaving normal and thus her husband asked her to take the day off but she insisted on continuing for the last operation. She did that successfully, congratulated the parents and went straight to home. She wrote a long descriptive letter before committing the crime. She neither wanted her kids to know nor her parents. She thought that they won't be able to take the sudden blow but what I kept on shouting on the inside while listening in rapt silence on the outside was if you had done a detailed and analytical study of the reactions and also stated all of it why in the first place did you commit suicide? If you cared so much then why didn't you try harder to combat the issues? And that's what I think every time when I read or hear a case of suicide. There are worst times and there will be even harder circumstances to face, if you lurch on the first step and decide to Quit at that very moment how are you going to ever reach the top? No battle was ever won without shredding the blood of others and sacrificing some of your own army. Dismay, defeat and destruction are parts of every ones life. If Virat Kohli is the best cricketer now doesn't mean he didn't ever get out on a golden duck. He had had his share of grief when he had to play on the day his father died. Smriti Irani, Minister of Human Resource Development, could have Quit the moment people worth nothing blamed her for her education and for every thing she did right. But she decided that if life is going to offer her lemon, she is going to make not only lemonade but also lemon tart, Popsicle, cake, candy and every other thing from them and she proved it when she cried at the parliament fighting for her dignity, respect and declaring her might to hold the post. She is just a well known instance of   fighting is better than quitting. For when you quit, the people you leave behind have to suffer your loss everyday for the rest of their lives. Don't be selfish, if you can't live for yourself live for others who care for you. The daughter you are, the sister you are and for the day when the mother you will be. Fight for your place, and have some self respect because nothing is ever gained from "Log kya kahenge?" but you walk a bit to the road of destination by exclaiming "Mujhe farak nahi padhta!" 

Facts by www.save.org 

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