Why didn't you try harder ?

About 8,00,000 people commit suicide worldwide every year, of these 1,35,000 (17%) are residents of India, a nation with 17.5% of world population. Between 1987 to 2007, the suicide rate increased from 7.9 to 10.3 per 1,00,000, with higher suicide rates in southern and eastern states of India.  SAVE™ recorded with the US Government that Suicide is the the 10th major cause of deaths in the US surpassing homicide which ranks 17th. There is something wrong happening in the world or its just human behavior to say "NO, I Quit." to difficulties.

The following charts analyze a few aspects of suicides :

As the earlier data states women have a higher suicidal tendency then men. And as per the multi-national sites' data females experience depression,  have suicidal thoughts and attempt suicides twice as much as men do. There is one death by suicide in the world every 40 seconds. Depression is the leading cause of disability worldwide. Suicide is the 3rd leading cause of death in the world for those aged 15-44 years. 

 In the light of recent events Pratyusha Banerjee and Jia Khan are the two beautiful souls we lost to Suicide. But these are only the known names. What about the unknowns?

All of the above are just some mathematical facts aligned statistically. But what is the real reason as to why people commit suicide. The utter feeling of helplessness and the thought that "I am not liked by anyone" or "no one wants me in this world" has often led to the final solution of suicide. And as to my sixteen years on this planet, suicide is never an impulsive decision. Its the result of long hours of staring at the ceiling thinking nothing or maybe over thinking everything. If you are busy 24*7, thoughts like these would never cross your mind. But if you had had a rough experience with life and you keep on analyzing it again and again. Replaying it like a record in your mind. You just click Repeat again and again. Even till this point its bearable but when you start blaming yourself for every small thing happening around you after that experience the problem starts brewing in the caldron of your depressed state of mind. Learn to let go is something the human brain does not learn in a day. My neighbor came to my house but something about her was not the same. And when I asked her reason it left me rooted at my spot. Her sister-in-law's sister committed suicide on 1st April, 2016. Does that date ring a bell, other than the April fool? The same day Pratyusha Banerjee committed suicide. She was a gynecologist and her husband is an anesthesiologist. They recently inaugurated a hospital together. They have two children. A boy in F.Y.M.B.B.S and a lad who recently finished with his Tenth boards and went to Kota for IIT-JEE preparations. What more can one ask for? In the causes above you see some like poverty, unemployment, bankruptcy, illness and many more. She had none. All she did was to over think about the future of her kids. The elder one wasn't scoring the ace marks and that some how worried her about the upcoming of her hospital. On the doom's day, she wasn't naturally behaving normal and thus her husband asked her to take the day off but she insisted on continuing for the last operation. She did that successfully, congratulated the parents and went straight to home. She wrote a long descriptive letter before committing the crime. She neither wanted her kids to know nor her parents. She thought that they won't be able to take the sudden blow but what I kept on shouting on the inside while listening in rapt silence on the outside was if you had done a detailed and analytical study of the reactions and also stated all of it why in the first place did you commit suicide? If you cared so much then why didn't you try harder to combat the issues? And that's what I think every time when I read or hear a case of suicide. There are worst times and there will be even harder circumstances to face, if you lurch on the first step and decide to Quit at that very moment how are you going to ever reach the top? No battle was ever won without shredding the blood of others and sacrificing some of your own army. Dismay, defeat and destruction are parts of every ones life. If Virat Kohli is the best cricketer now doesn't mean he didn't ever get out on a golden duck. He had had his share of grief when he had to play on the day his father died. Smriti Irani, Minister of Human Resource Development, could have Quit the moment people worth nothing blamed her for her education and for every thing she did right. But she decided that if life is going to offer her lemon, she is going to make not only lemonade but also lemon tart, Popsicle, cake, candy and every other thing from them and she proved it when she cried at the parliament fighting for her dignity, respect and declaring her might to hold the post. She is just a well known instance of   fighting is better than quitting. For when you quit, the people you leave behind have to suffer your loss everyday for the rest of their lives. Don't be selfish, if you can't live for yourself live for others who care for you. The daughter you are, the sister you are and for the day when the mother you will be. Fight for your place, and have some self respect because nothing is ever gained from "Log kya kahenge?" but you walk a bit to the road of destination by exclaiming "Mujhe farak nahi padhta!" 

Facts by www.save.org 

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